The fears


"I don't want to be a hypocrite."

The fact that you smoke, drink alcohol or you have tried drugs, doesn't mean that you shouldn't be open. It's better to share your own experience. There is no need to create an ideal image of yourself.

   

"I don't want to "remind" him/her, he/she hasn't heard about those things,
and now he/she will get interested."

Discussing this topic doesn't make your child a drug-addict. Most probably he/she is already acquainted with drugs. The conversations with her/him will broaden his/her knowledge and will give him/her the opportunity to understand your point of view.

   

"I don't feel comfortable in this role."

There is nothing wrong to share with your child that you feel uncomfortable. Undoubtedly he/she has already felt that. A similar confession will show that your anxiety is caused by natural worries, not by something your daughter or son has done or said.

   
 

The mistakes


Imperative tone

"You have to!",
"You will!", "Don't!"
"Sit down and listen to me!"

Order and denial of the right of own opinion

"What you should do is."

Reproach

"You act foolishly!"
"The other will think that.".

Threats

"If you don't stop, I will."
"Just wait until your father comes home.!"

Giving a "diagnosis"

"The problem with you is .".

Disrespect for dignity

"You are a complete fool!"
"You are just nothing"

Teaching

"If you had something in your head, you would."

Interrogation

"Why? Who? When? How?"
"Tell me! Admit it!"

Rhetorical questions with unfavorable answers

"You wouldn't want, would you?"
"You probably think that drugs are not a problem, huh.!?

   
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Knowledge Communication Fears & Mistakes

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